As much as I love my parents – your grandparents – I feel like they did not teach me a few essential things in my life.
Don't get me wrong – there were great and did a lot for me, for all of us. They always tried to teach me what they can.
And while your granddad was very successful in what he did, there were a few things he never taught me. We just never talked about.
I don't know why – I never asked, I feel like it wouldn't be appropriate to ask now, and probably he'd just give one of his grumpy answers anyway. Maybe he was naturally gifted in those things and never thought about it. Maybe he was lucky. Maybe times were different. I don't know.
Anway – the two things I missed talking about that I am referring to here are:
- How to handle money once you make (lots of) it.
The money topic is something I am going to address another point in time; in this post, I want to focus on the goal side of things.
Hopefully, by the time you're old enough to read this, this might seem natural for you; and while it might seem “obvious”, it's one of the biggest things that stand between people and their success.
So here's how this works.
You can have pretty much anything you want. No matter how big the dream, there is a good chance to reach it.
The problem most people have, though, is this: Big dreams are scary.
Heck, even big goals are scary.
Why? Because they seem overwhelming. The amount of stuff you need to do. The time it takes. The PAIN it takes.
All that might lead to you saying: “Meh, fuck it. That's never going to happen”.
This is where most people stop.
Now here is the trick, though:
Every goal, no matter how big it is, is simply the result of lots and lots of usually simple steps. Easy stuff. No-brainers. No magic involved. Monkey work, mostly.
The key to success? Making sure they're all done. (not even DOING them all – you might as well get other people to do them for you, in fact for big stuff you'll HAVE to).
So there are two things you need to do when you're having a huge goal in front of you:
1. Split it up into small steps.
2. Do them.
No, I am not oversimplifying things here. That's all there is.
Of course, again – and I had to find out the hard way – The first step is kind of easy when you do it the right way.
Just ask the right questions!
- What do I need to get this done?
- Who do I need to get this done?
- In what order do I need to get this done?
- Who can help me get this done?
Especially the “people” parts are important. Whatever it is that you want – you might already KNOW who would be perfect to help you. Maybe it's an opinion leader. Maybe it's somebody who is very proficient in that field. But geez… impossible to reach that guy, right?
Wrong! Because you already broke up the “big goal” into smaller steps by now (one of them being “get that guy on board”), and now you have a “smaller” goal that you can, once again, split up and tackle, by reaching the right question.
To stick with the example – “So what do I need to reach out to that guy? How would I do that? etc.”. You might find that it's not IMPOSSIBLE anymore. It's just a lot of small steps. Such as: Find out what you could offer to get him on board. Find out how to reach him. Get past the gatekeepers. Take to him and make your offer. Follow up. Follow up again. and again… you get the point ;).
So, the lesson I want to give you is: Never be scared if you have big thoughts. Always try to break them up into the un-scary small steps by asking the right questions. an then do them.
Which brings me to the second part of that ultra-simple formula, “do them”.
Well – especially when there's a lot of stuff (there usually is), it's easy to lose track. It's easy to lose interest. it's easy to lose sight of the goal.
That's why it's so important that you track your goals.
My life has changed since I started doing this (and by the time I'm writing this, I am by far not there yet).
Take the time to sit down and think about your goals. In all areas of life. What do you want to achieve? Who do you want to be? Who do you want to be with? How do you want to live your life?
It's not about what it is. It needs to be perfect for you, and whatever this may be, I will be there to support you, because I love you.
It's about being CLEAR what you want. Because once you did that – for your life, for your dreams, for your passions, for everything – you can then start DOING stuff. And keeping track.
And you know what? A lot of things will not be done tomorrow. But now you know what to do. Now you have a plan to go back to. Now you have your little tasks to do. Now you always have something to go back to.
And by the way – you'll see that along the way, you'll change plans a lot. That's okay. That's part of the game.
So how do you all do that? Well as I said, first, get clear with your goals. Write them down.
This step alone took me about half a year and many many hours (not full time of course, but countless sessions). It's about a 50-something page document with every aspect I can think of clearly defined. I started this over 1.5 years ago and I'm still changing things around.
Partly because I am changing goals a bit.
Partly because I've reached those goals! :-)
The next step is to start doing stuff, and keeping track of stuff. I did that by setting up a little online system for myself that reminds me every day what's next to do, where I track progress, failures and wins, and where I go through my goals (ona higher level, not through all 50 pages, that's not necessary) pretty much daily.
Great stuff, I'm telling you.
You can use a journal if you prefer (if there will still be journals in a few years). Doesn't matter.
Well… that's it. Doesn't sound like much, but trust your dad – there's life-changing power in these simple steps.
I love you!